Help Me Save My Marriage - Tips to Save a Marriage in Crisis If You Still Love Your Spouse

If you're asking "help me save my marriage" then you are without doubt in a place of emotional turmoil, sorrow and stress and this is made worse by the fact that you are still in love with your spouse.  What is also probably true is that your spouse is more than ready to walk away and get the divorce underway.

Well then if this is you then you are going to have to prove to your spouse that you and your marriage are worth saving and you are going to have to do that on your own.

If your spouse wants to separate and have you or them leave the marital home, then you should do so.  Arguing and clinging onto your spouse will only drive them further away emotionally.  So agree to any separation that has been suggested by your spouse and do so with dignity and maturity.  This move will stand you in good stead with your spouse.

What it will also do is put some well needed space between the two of you and cool things down.  During this time of separation many couples find that they miss each other and whereas divorce was an open threat before, a separation can often bring a reluctant spouse around to the realization that divorce is not what they want.

But you're not going to sit around waiting for your spouse to realize they miss and want you back, you're going to be proactive and put in place a plan of action that will give you all the help you need to save your marriage.

You're going to have to keep it together and not spiral down into depression and self-pity.  The worse thing you can do is to make yourself a victim right now.  Instead keep yourself busy and keep yourself desirable and looking your best whenever you're out and about.  You don't want word getting back to your spouse that you've let yourself go and you've fallen apart.  You want word getting back to your spouse that you're coping, looking good and that you're someone not to leave, but someone to build and work at a marriage with!

While you and your spouse are apart, make sure that you get hold of some of the better resources to help you repair your marriage.  Yes there is a chance your spouse will come back to you when they miss you, but even if that happens you want to make sure you keep them.  This means understanding what went wrong in your marriage and how you can fix things and save your marriage.