Cheating Spouse - I Want a Divorce

My cheating spouse has led me to this conclusion and my emotions are dominating my life. I suspect an adulterous affair and want to stop the pain and agony. I am filled with anger and resentment and finding it terribly hard to think this out logically.

I have no absolute proof and no idea which road to take. The so called 'experts' I have researched all have one common premise - catch them, prove their infidelity, and divorce them. If this is the route I choose the inevitable result will be confrontation, arguments, and most certainly a divorce.

Confrontation is almost always unpleasant. This will lead to a very high level of stress because finding out solid proof of unfaithfulness is vastly different than only having a suspicion. Can our marriage survive a war of words, or will this lead directly to a divorce? Am I really ready to end it all or can I go beyond confrontation and avoid the unpleasant task of letting go of everything we have built in our relationship?

No on wants to contemplate divorce, but the truth of the matter is that it does happen. Many things, such as a cheating spouse, work against the marriage and more often than not send you on a fast track to your lawyers' office. Very quickly you will find yourself having gone from being deeply in love to being deeply in divorce.

There are a lot of couples who are happily married and some that are on the threshold of parting and going on to a divorce. Marriage is a relationship that both partners must work hard on to make it successful, and is not always wonderful and exciting.

Consider the following if you believe that your marriage has reached the point that you are considering applying to the courts for a divorce. Is there a possibility that you would reconsider, that if you were to change your mind set away from I want a divorce and focus on the positive aspects of your marital life, that your marriage could be saved? Why throw away a lifetime of good only because of a rough period?

Remember that you are not the first married couple to experience infidelity in the course of their marriage. Numerous others are still together and doing well because they took the opportunity to have second thoughts.

Honest effort, patience, understanding and compromise are necessary to make a marriage work. Both parties must be willing to undergo some changes in the way their marriage is viewed if they truly wish to save the marriage. Differences can and will arise but through understanding you can make certain that mutual respect and a stronger marriage will result.