Signs of a Cheating Wife Are One Thing - Proof is What You Need

If you've been looking for signs of a cheating wife, chances are you've probably found those signs. But think about it, signs are one thing, actual PROOF is another thing and proof is what you want!

So let's look at this closely...

Signs of a cheating wife are a great starting point, but then you need to go and get the proof your wife is actually cheating. If you go off, rushing in confronting your wife without any actual proof, then you could end up doing more harm than good. I mean look at it this way, what's she going to do? Yeah, that's right, she's going to deny it! It's classic cheat behavior: when cornered they lie and they deny!

After she's talked her way out of the corner you've tried to back her into, what do you think she's going to do? Well she's going to become more careful and she's going to start covering her tracks even more. So yes, taking the time to get the proof before you confront your wife, is the only way to go!

But just how do you go about getting the proof? Well there's an extremely useful tool that you can use to help you get the hard cold facts about what your wife has been up to. The tool is called Reverse Phone Detective and it works like a reverse caller ID.

Get hold of your wife's cell phone bill or take a look at her call log and see if you can find a number that you don't recognize. Make sure that you do this in private when she's not around, getting caught at this stage would ruin everything. Make a note of the number or numbers you want to look up and then go to Reverse Phone Detective. This resource will give you the name and address of who the number belongs to and it will do so in a discreet way, so if you're wrong and it's all innocent, then no one will ever no.

Cheating Spouse - I Want a Divorce

My cheating spouse has led me to this conclusion and my emotions are dominating my life. I suspect an adulterous affair and want to stop the pain and agony. I am filled with anger and resentment and finding it terribly hard to think this out logically.

I have no absolute proof and no idea which road to take. The so called 'experts' I have researched all have one common premise - catch them, prove their infidelity, and divorce them. If this is the route I choose the inevitable result will be confrontation, arguments, and most certainly a divorce.

Confrontation is almost always unpleasant. This will lead to a very high level of stress because finding out solid proof of unfaithfulness is vastly different than only having a suspicion. Can our marriage survive a war of words, or will this lead directly to a divorce? Am I really ready to end it all or can I go beyond confrontation and avoid the unpleasant task of letting go of everything we have built in our relationship?

No on wants to contemplate divorce, but the truth of the matter is that it does happen. Many things, such as a cheating spouse, work against the marriage and more often than not send you on a fast track to your lawyers' office. Very quickly you will find yourself having gone from being deeply in love to being deeply in divorce.

There are a lot of couples who are happily married and some that are on the threshold of parting and going on to a divorce. Marriage is a relationship that both partners must work hard on to make it successful, and is not always wonderful and exciting.

Consider the following if you believe that your marriage has reached the point that you are considering applying to the courts for a divorce. Is there a possibility that you would reconsider, that if you were to change your mind set away from I want a divorce and focus on the positive aspects of your marital life, that your marriage could be saved? Why throw away a lifetime of good only because of a rough period?

Remember that you are not the first married couple to experience infidelity in the course of their marriage. Numerous others are still together and doing well because they took the opportunity to have second thoughts.

Honest effort, patience, understanding and compromise are necessary to make a marriage work. Both parties must be willing to undergo some changes in the way their marriage is viewed if they truly wish to save the marriage. Differences can and will arise but through understanding you can make certain that mutual respect and a stronger marriage will result.

Christian Sex - Does a Long Passionate Kiss Count As Cheating?

Jesus said that even if you only lust after a man or woman, without the physical contact, you have already committed adultery with that person in your heart. Just think how many times viewers of porn have committed adultery.

Matthew 5:27
You have heard that it was said to those of old, "You shall not commit adultery" But I say to you, whoever looks at a woman to lust for her, has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Some may say that watching porn or lusting after a person without the physical act is totally harmless and it won't cause anyone to cheat, I disagree, its one thing to be happily married and you can still appreciate the beauty of another person without lusting whether that "hot babe" neighbor of yours in Apt 7A or that Mr. "McDreamy" you encounter each day on your way to work each morning, its another thing to lust after that co-worker or your spouse's best friend etc Not to mention the fact that watching porn is disrespectful to your spouse.

The more you think about having sex with someone other than your spouse, the more its burned into your mind and you start thinking of ways to make it a reality, the thought or image of you, engaged in hot and heavy sex with this person or even those porn pictures that you hide under the bed, is burned in your subconscious and it will make you want your spouse to imitate what you've seen or you'll try to seduce and have sex with the person you're lusting after.

The saying, out of the heart; the mouth speaketh is not an empty phrase.

What if you were chatting online with someone, and you felt that you had so much in common with,

"Wow, my spouse doesn't know me as well as you do, we just have this powerful connection" or maybe you were chatting back and forth,engaging in a lot of sexual banter trying to outdo each other about what you want to do to each other sexually and how fast or slow or long you want to do it, Meanwhile your spouse is innocently in the bedroom watching TV totally unaware of your sexual chat going on fast and furious just feet away in the next room,

Can you honestly say that that is not cheating and that its just bravado, having fun and it will never go anywhere, we've both set limits, we know how far to go? Do you really?

What if you were at work and you were talking to your co-worker, whom you've known for years, you've had the occasional "how are you?" over the years, but now you've had a few conversations with one another, you're feeling good about all the attention you're getting and the conversation

turns to sex and you end up sharing a long, slow,wet and passionate kiss and you feel bad about

it; but reason, "I won't let that happen again" My spouse doesn't have to know; it will only make things worse, what she/he doesn't know won't hurt her/him" Would that qualify as cheating?

You don't have to engage in physical contact to have committed adultery and even when it does get physical, whether a passionate kiss, a "loooonger" than usual hug or that "dirty talk" its still cheating. Physical Adultery, just like a toddler learning to walk, starts with very small steps, lust builds into fantasy and can lead into masturbation or going out to make your lust fantasy a reality.

Romans 12:2 says that we are to be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Replace those lustful thoughts with Godly thoughts, spend time in the word, ask God in prayer to forgive and take away the lustful thoughts.

Instead think about how I can be a better spouse, stir up some romance with your beloved spouse, you know the one who you pledged your undying love to before God and 250 of your closest friends and family at the wedding? Yeah That One :-)

Galatians 5:16-17
I say then, Walk in the spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh, For the flesh lusts against the spirit and the spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. in other words guard your heart, cheating and sex in general is everywhere in the media, so you must be strong.

Your lust outside of your marriage could be a sign of bigger relationship problems you might be having with your spouse and that requires communication or if need be, christian counseling, it may be a part of one or both spouses not getting their needs met, as in emotionally or sexually; but it takes two people, making the effort to work out their marital problems, with God at the forefront for it to really work.

Cheating, whether physical or not can lead to violence, a feeling of betrayal, family dysfunction, emotionally scarred children, divorce and distance from God, God is of purer eyes than to look upon sin, The Bible says in Psalm 66:18 that if I regard iniquity in my heart, he (God) will not hear me. So if you're a cheater, you will likely get caught or if you are tempted to cheat, work on your marriage.

Proverbs 5:15
Drink water from your own cistern, in other words, Desire only your spouse sexually, you have your lovely bride or gorgeous hunk of a husband, why destroy your marriage and relationship with God by lusting for some floozy/jerk by thinking that the grass will be greener on the other side (it never is).

So what if the young woman paying attention to you is "hotter" than your wife. You're already taken and besides, outer physical beauty is only skin deep? So what if he has "Movie Star" looks, is 6ft4in and he makes you laugh and feel like a million bucks, lots of women will eat up the attention; but you don't have to, he probably won't really love you;but is rather trying to charm you out of your clothes. Love is not just a feeling; its a commitment.

Again, communicate any hangups you might have with each other, seek God Together and work it out and despite what a recent ABCNews column might say about cheating being more "culturally acceptable", it most definitely is not acceptable in God's eyes.

Emotional Cheating - Yes Your Marriage is at Risk If You're Emotionally Cheating

Many people wonder if emotional cheating is as serious as physically cheating on their spouse. Well the truth is that if you are engaging in behavior with someone else, that you cannot share with your spouse then there is a problem and that problem can quickly escalate and become a major deal breaker in your marriage.

Let's be clear what we mean about emotional cheating and then explain why this kind of cheating can be such a threat to your marriage.

Emotional cheating is where you develop a friendship with someone outside of your marriage. Classical it is a work mate who you find yourself looking forward to seeing when you get to work. Perhaps you've started taking your lunch together? Offering lifts to and from work? Sitting in the park talking about your feelings and your marriage, about your work and the stresses and strains of life? You can open up and talk to your 'friend' but you can't do the same with your spouse. And you definitely can't tell your spouse about your friend! This is emotional cheating and though it may look innocent and you may even be able to convince yourself that nothing is going on, you'd be wrong.

What generally happens is that an emotional commitment grows between you and your 'friend' and before you know it, that commitment has become physical and a full blown affair has begun.

What you need to understand is that any time you have a 'friend' that you cannot tell your spouse about, then that is wrong. If you can't share your day with your spouse without missing out great chunks of that day, then something is wrong.

No one ever sets out to emotionally cheat on their spouse. Usually there's a need to talk and connect with someone because that need is not being met in your marriage.

Sit down today with your spouse and talk honestly about what has been going on and why you think it has been going on. Your spouse might be angry and even feel betrayed that you have discussed intimate and personal issues about your marriage and your lives with someone else, but it is better that you face this head on right now before you cross over into a physical relationship.

You and your spouse need to find help to repair whatever is wrong in your marriage. You need to take the steps to reconnect with each other, so that both your emotional needs are being met where they should be: within the marriage.

Emotional cheating is often the beginning of a full on affair! If you have an affair think about the damage that that will do to your marriage? Are you ready to lose the spouse you love?